78th Blog - "Be the driver of your own life"

Over the past few months, I had gone through very situation, sometime tough, sometime very easy but most of the time it was tough and merely the painful too. The things that I thought not to be happen, just come about and one very fine day I come to conclude and have to accept it again that life is never easy, it never be. then how it is and the answer comes out “it is just not supposed to be in the way you think”. That is a simple answer for everyone and for every single human.

One of my close friend once said -"cry as long as you want now, and then you will forget about it." It made sense.

Another friend once said- "Stay in your hiding place as long as you want, but remember there are people who are willing to drag you out, they are still waiting for you outside. Don't make them wait for too long." and It too made sense.

But what I thought is “Never cry over the same problem twice, nor keep your eyes wet for so long that you fail to see the happy days coming again.” Somehow, how long one wishes to stay in that style decides how well he will cope up with it.

Every one has own happenings. its natural and alas have to Accept it!

There comes many time in our life when we're trapped in too many dramas of life. As in my earlier blogs I write out that “We're in this universe like a Puppet, Have to play only our Part, On a stage that was already designed and Have to act, Like it is already determined”. And it is very true someday there comes a point in life, where all the senseless drama exhausts you, the negativity drains the last drop of strength from your contempt soul and you are left with a thousand questions which seem to have no answer. The big stability of the routine pulls you down and you feel like running away from this world, hiding yourself in a secluded corner, away from friends, away from your families, away from your loved ones, away from office, away from the worries, more probably away from yourself own. You do not know what went wrong, you don't even know how to bring things back on path. In worse cases, you don't even know if there is anything wrong at all. You just feel alone, sad and helpless. Your life feels out of control and that frustrates you more than anything. It haunts you more than all wounds. It brings you down in all the way of life and tears you apart.

Everyone has problems, your ability to deal with them decides your fate. It is okay to be low at times, it is okay to give yourself some privacy and to ponder about the mess around. It is okay to even curse and cry. but then make sure to get over it completely, and then return stronger.

But the good thing about life is every one has to face it all- sometimes loneliness, sometimes sadness, sometimes depression, sometimes failure. and then gradually happiness follows. No one can be exactly in same mood or phase throughout the life.

There are people around, who try to help you, but you are so obsessed about your own dilemmas that you tend to ignore them, or in worse cases even shut yourself away from them. you end up hurting the ones who are closest to you, only to regret that later. There are always some people who need you. not the sad or depressed you've, but the blessed. Don't misjudge or ignore them. When you can't deal with things alone, then don't lock yourself in a room, where no one can come to bring you out.

Life is good. Despite worst situations, good people exist and they care for your well being. Keep yourself up, and treat them well. They are the people, God has sent as a link to the good days. they help you to look out for small packets of happiness and soon you will collect a bag full of them.

Trust on those people for your own good.

If you run away from the situations. they will come running behind you. Stop that! Decide how you are going to deal with them. Think and then Act. once you decide to take control over your own life, things will automatically fall in place.

You are never alone, neither are you the only person having problems in life. In-fact you are lucky to have the power to steer your life in any direction that you want. Be the driver of your own life, and you will never be alone to travel on the road.

“You and only you are the creator of your own destiny”

 

 

 

 

 

Regards

Dhitendra

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