60th Blog - FROM THE DIARY OF AN INDIAN ENGINEER

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FROM THE DIARY OF AN INDIAN ENGINEER (Almost A Bitter Reality)

As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in Software Engineering and joined a company based in USA, the land of braves and opportunity. When I arrived in the USA, it was as if a dream had come true. Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I would be staying in this country for about Five years in which time I would have earned enough money to settle down in India. 

My father was a government employee and after his retirement, the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom flat. I wanted to do some thing more than him. I started feeling homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone cards. Two years passed, two years of Burgers at McDonald's and pizzas and discos and 2 years watching the foreign exchange rate getting happy whenever the Rupee value went down. Finally I decided to get married. Told my parents that I have only 10 days of holidays and everything must be done within these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in the cheapest flight. Was jubilant and was actually enjoying hopping for gifts for all my friends back home. If I miss anyone then there will be talks. After reaching home I spent home one week going through all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting shorter I was forced to select one candidate. In-laws told me, to my surprise, that I would have to get married in 2-3 days, as I will not get anymore holidays. After the marriage, it was time to return to USA, after giving some money to my parents and telling the neighbors to look after them, we returned to USA. 

My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India increased to twice in a week sometimes 3 times a week. Our savings started diminishing. After two more years we started to have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl, were gifted to us by the almighty. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children. Every year I decide to go to India… But part work part monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting India was a distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a message that my parents were seriously sick. I tried but I couldn't get any holidays and thus could not go to India, The next message I got was my parents had passed away and as there was no one to do the last rights the society members had done whatever they could. I was depressed. My parents had passed away without seeing their grand children. 

After couple more years passed away, much to my children's dislike and my wife's joy we returned to India to settle down. I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my savings were short and the property prices had gone up during all these years. I had to return to the USA. My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to stay in India. My 2 children and I returned to USA after promising my wife I would be back for good after two years. Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an American and my son was happy living in USA, I decided that had enough and wound-up every thing and returned to India, I had just enough money to buy a decent 02 bedroom flat in a well-developed locality. 

Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the flat is for the routine visit to the nearby temple. My faithful wife has also left me and gone to the holy abode. 

Sometimes 

I wondered was it worth all this?

My father, even after staying in India,

Had a house to his name and I too have the same nothing more.

I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM.

Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing. This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these children are losing their values and culture because of it. I get occasional cards from my children asking I am alright. Well at least they remember me.

Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbors again who will be performing my last rights, God Bless them. 

But the question still remains “was all this worth it?” I am still searching for an answer.

START THINKING

Is it just for One extra bedroom..??

Is it just for the pleasure of living Abroad..??

Was it just to spirit in a country when are unaware about your own place and values..??

Was it just for a few metal money ??

There are many reason and explanation, but are we satisfied, while, lying with our own soul.

LIFE IS BEYOND THIS, DON'T JUST LEAVE YOUR LIFE.

START LIVING IT .

LIVE IT AS YOU WANT IT TO BE.

Regards

Dhitendra

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59th Blog - LEH and LADAKH

NEED HELP :- :-) 

A JOURNEY FOR LEH And LADAKH (The Nirvana on Earth, The Dream land on Earth, The Passion Ride for BIKERS, The Dream of Masses). 

The Journey of a Lifetime, I better want to name this as “The DREAM RIDE of my LIFE” 

  

There is an anonymous beautiful saying - “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines, Sail away from the safe harbor, Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover, Imagine, Live the Life in your own style.” 

TRAVELING : Traveling on the most adventurous places, is what, I called my True Passion, Just before the Writing, and I'm just crazy for traveling, if I have had all the favorable conditions. Looking for the most beautiful, too-generous and amazing places, driven by the ageless thirst of seeing the unseen, knowing the unknown, imagery beyond the dream. In this world there are many means to see the unseen and know the unknown, but traveling is the best from all of them. Reading books gives us literal knowledge, listening story gives us vague ideas, but traveling gives us visual as well as concrete knowledge. It is man's innate nature to behold the beauties and novelties of the nature, So, In the thirst of new knowledge, people along with their family members, students, friends, go to behold those places. As a treasure, they can know other culture, other life style, other society, other people. 

A wish to explore the whole world through my persuasion and passion, A wish to go beyond our lives to explore in our own way, to achieve the most beauteous of the world and to feel astronomic, A wish to travel to the highest motor able road, to ride bike at altitudes of 10,000 feet and above, to pass through some of the most breathtaking and Zigzag road-stead, challenging to one of the most awe-inspiring landscapes, to cross Magnetic hill, to unleash the nature in the purest beauty, to drive from chilly winds to barren land, from barren land to high raising peaks, to travel in the mid of Snow, A wish to travel under the rain and mid of downfall, to overcome the fear of freezing atmosphere. A wish to again to learn from nature. A wish to Just feel free. As I heard, Its truly a peculiar place, beyond imagination, beyond harmony. There is an anonymous by Ladakh people – The land is so barren and the passes are so high that only our best friends or worst enemies would want to visit us. Quite fit here, when you consider that the roads leading to the Himalayan region of Ladakh are open for only four months in a year and remain snowbound for the remaining eight. The road to Ladakh is made on the same trail used by the caravans going up to the Silk Route centuries ago and passes through some of the most breathtaking, challenging and awe-inspiring landscapes found on Earth. The journey by any means is not an easy one since most parts of the road are at altitudes of 10,000 feet and above. In addition, the number of miles one can cover in a day depends on the road and weather conditions and the few places one can stay en-route. This is where I've to step in to feel one of the most beautiful experience of my LIFE. 

Friend's - I am using the social sites, to sort me help and guide to make this journey as we aspect it as a “DREAM” come true, you can please ask from any of your known that travel to the place and can help Us. ---- Thanks, Keep Smiling :-) 

My mail ID – dhitendrasingh@gmail.com, dhitendra.singh@yahoo.com

Regards

Dhitendra

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58th blog "HOPE" - A Great Word.

Every night when I sleep, I never know I'll be get up in next morning or not, but I nap with a hope, to be awake with more strength in next morning. When I start to fight for something, I don't know about the result, but I fight with a hope for a fine outcome. When I start a Journey, I doesn't know, I'll be reach to destiny safely or not, But I walk with a hope to find my Fate and whenever I start to Hope, I started to be go away from the Despair, Whenever I started to travel, at-least I feel relax to be ahead from many of People who yet not started, whenever I start to give a Try, I feel relax about to won Half of the Battle.

 “HOPE”: is a great word, Hope: really is a very beautiful word, may be one of the finest word present in Cosmos, and great thing may be face obstacles, but it never lasts, It is half trust, half sense. It is the path you can see, which others cannot, it is all the obstacles which you know from logic might be in your path, but faith says "maybe". and Every morning as soon as I get up, I always pray the happiness for my own family, for this world, and ask almighty to make me more hopeful, more strengthen to achieve the key success of happy life, more specifically, in my opinion, happiness is about peace, Peace is an absence of fear, guilt and negative feelings, If you've hope, you can achieve them, you can get that easily by being a good and honest person not just when other people are watching, but when no one is watching as well. Hope is one of the most delicious ingredients of life. It defines the ways on which life is led. It is only hope that encourages people to achieve their desired aims. For defeated, it is the only power that enables them to stand once again in the face of dictatorship. For poor, it is the only thing they feature. Hope, therefore, constitutes the way of life. One of the most characteristic attributes of hope is encouragement. It prompts people into translating their dreams into reality. It provides them energy to walk along the thorny tracks of life. "It means that where there is hope, there is a struggle, It simply means, when there is a hope, there is a life". For instance, there was a hope among the people of India to live freely. They desired a homeland without foreign domination. In order to achieve independence from British, everyone struggled in the way of freedom. Thus, it can be said that hope compels people to struggle for their lives. Not only this, It is one of the finest remedy for the wounds inflicted upon people by time. When people are defeated, it is only hope that makes them fight once again. History bears unmistakable testimony to it. Japanese, say, were defeated in World War II. However, they did not lose their hope. Today, Japan is one of the major contributors to global economy. In such a way, hope plays a decisive role in the lives of people. Therefore. importance of hope in life stands unquestionable. It determines the horizons of the progress and prosperity. It helps people overcome their fears and makes them capable to reach their own destiny. It lets people live their lives. Probably, It is the best way of life. It is the blending of mortal mind with faith. On the wings of time whose outcome holds many variables. Your mother hoped you would be born strong and intelligent. And when you were born she began looking for the signs of it. The signs of the "you". Then she looked for compassion and wisdom. She began to look at your path ahead, and she trembled. But being your mother, she moved on with you, hoping that your eyes would open, Men and women go to war and they hope to make it back home. Alive, Whole. They see their path ahead. The terrible labyrinth calls to them and they know what they must do. But they carry hope. Hope gathers virtues and we consider the feature of beauty, but life does not always extract virtues from us. What would I say of hope? I hope that I never lose hope. I hope that It keeps me and my feet walk in peace. It is my best friend, Its a breathtaking morning after a violent night's storm. It looks on me every-time, be with me on my every walk, and encourage me always, not to suffer and finish. It works when I have nothing else. It encourage me When I lose motivation and determination, It seems to lift my spirits up as a person and help me to stay on the right path, Because Sometimes when there doesn't seem to be a light at the end of the tunnel, hope reassures the person that what they are working towards will pay off at the End. Therefore, I know hope. I'm thankful each new day is a fresh beginning, and we can learn from our previous mistakes, So, don't look back, you're not going that way, If you are going to look back, you can miss the pleasure resides for you in future.

Because I Believe “Hope is more powerful than Despair” and “Dreams are more powerful than Facts”. Always we need to do is “HOPE FOR THE BEST” and be “PREPARE FOR THE WORST”, Almighty never did anything to you, It is only and only you, that did to yourself, there is no GOD, there is only the Outlaw to looks towards life.

“HOPE IS THE WAY OF LIFE, FEEL IT, LIVE WITH IT AND PROBABLY ENJOY IT”, but never lose it “IF YOU'RE GOING TO LOSE IT, YOU'RE STARTING TO LOSE EVERYTHING”.  ----------------- Singh Dhitendra 

Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are “Something to Do”, “Something to Love”, “Something to Hope for”. -------------- Joseph Addison 

Regards

Dhitendra

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57th Blog Mr. PERFECTIONIST - Wish you a very Happy B'day

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After a very long time, I write on the birthday of my one of the all time best-loved Actor, Mr. AAMIR KHAN, here I not use the term “Bolly-wood” in between “my one of the all time best-loved” words, there may be several reason behind this, one of them is “Acting is an Art and so the Performer is an Artist and can't be caged in a word, so it also not caged in the nomenclature that separates the Artist from being a Holly, Bolly, Tolly etc. Because I believe a good artist is very hard to find and when you find, you need to respect. And he is not only a Actor apart he is a Creator. 

AAMIR KHAN – A name that introduced and defines a very new word to our film industry i.e. the “PERFECTIONIST” Many would believe that the word ‘Perfection’ was discovered after he was born. In case of Actor, after Tom Hanks, I was only able to find this person who is to much dedicated towards his profession and try his best effort to get the finest result. The term “Perfectionist” is so synonymous with him that over a period of time it has almost become his ‘middle name’. He is also termed as one of Bollywood’s most enigmatic actors like Big B. 

He was born on March 14, 1965 to Tahir Hussain, a Hindi film producer, and also known as by several Nick name like A.K, AK, Mr. Perfectioist, Tom Hanks of India. People among the globe thinks he is very talented in his work and profession, so he is and believe to be deliver the best-est in his every attempt. He was first introduced as a child artiste in the 1970's hit Yaadon ki Baarat (1973), he was the youngest child in the trio, and also played a role of child artist in Madhosh (1974). He then concentrated on school and became a state tennis champion for Maharashtra. He fell in love with the girl next door in the meantime, named Reena Dutta. He proposed to her the day he turned 21, and she accepted. But apparently, there was opposition since she was from a Hindu family and he, from a devout Islamic one. So, they run off, got married and returned to their homes. Aamir's wife Reena even appears in the song "Papa Kehte Hain". Later he divorced his first wife in December 2001 (don't know the reason why he divorced her love, here I respect Mr. SRK) and married Kiran Rao in December 2005. After a long span of Eleven years, he made his adult acting debut in a role that went quite unnoticed in Ketan Mehta's Holi (1984). his first notable leading role came in 1988 in the film Qayamat se Qayamat tak, which was a breakthrough commercial success, and played a vital role in launching his career as a leading Actor. His performance in Earth (1998) as the Ice-Candy man has received rave reviews from Indian and International critics. Using classic "method acting" and adopted an acting technique inspired by his seniors. He acts in all genres of Indian films - comedy, action, drama and romance. He is regarded as complete Indian actor of the post 1990 generation of actors for his diverse choice of roles and films. This iconic mega star of Bollywood has never been afraid to tread on less traversed paths in his movie roles. He is a method actor, he is a creator in his own words. his range of characterizations remains unparalleled and because of this diversity and his ability to portray different characters believably on screen, today he is regarded as not only one of the biggest Superstars but also one of the finest actors of Indian Cinema. ,Unlike other stars who have three to four releases every year, He is believed to release one big movie every year, but with a perfection and dedication. His movie “LAGAAN” received critical acclaim and awards at international film festivals, as well as many Indian film awards. It became the third Hindi-language film to be nominated for the Academy Award for best Foreign language film after Mother India (1957) and Salaam Bombay (1988). It was one of the biggest box office hits of 2001. In 2010, the film was ranked No. 55 in Empire magazines and being "The 100 Best Films of World Cinema". In 2011, it was listed in Time magazine's special "The All-TIME 25 Best Sports Movies". He also appeared in his TV Serial "SATYAMEV JAYATE" that also received a critically acclaimed success.

He is appeared in several roles and characters ranging from Romance to Villain, Youth, Socialist and many more. In his second film Raakh (a small, art film) he did a complete opposite role from the lover boy of his first film, his breakthrough performance in this film bagged him the National Film Award of Special Jury. Afterwards he signed a few not so good films which failed at the box office. In the year 1990 he delivered the biggest grosser of the year in the form of Dil and since then he has not looked back giving several commercial and critical hits, his superlative performances include films like Dil, Dil Hai Ke Manta Nahin, Daulat Ki Jung, Jo Jeeta Wohi Sikander, Hum Hain Rahi Pyar Ke, Parampara, Andaz Apna Apna (One of best comedy movie I ever seen), Baazi, Rangeela, Akele Hum Akele Tum, Raja Hindustani, Ishq, Earth, Ghulam, Sarfarosh, Dil Chahta Hai, Lagaan, Mangal Panday, Fanaa, Rang De Basanti, Taare Zameen per, Ghajini, 3 Idiots, Talaash. In 2007 he turned director with the film Taare Zameen Par which not only brought him immense critical acclaim but was a huge box office success. Many of his films are considered as cult classics like QSQT, Lagaan, Dil Chahta Hai, Range De Basanti, Jo Jeeta Wohi Sikander and Andaz Apna Apna.

In the words of Kareena Kapoor “Aamir is a living legend. He has a beautiful mind and he definitely is one of the finest actors of all time”.

Awards: Padma Bhushan, India’s third highest civilian hon-our from the Government of India; 3 National Film Awards; Filmfare Best Male Debut Award, 2 Filmfare Best Actor Awards, 2 Filmfare Best Movie Awards, Filmfare Best Director Award, Filmfare Critics Award for Best Performance. 

Trivia: He has a reputation for shunning award ceremonies and not accepting any Indian awards. 

Out of his Personal quotas my most favorite was only below two -:

Every film I do means a lot to me. The failure of Mela, definitely made a difference to me. I am not comfortable with the idea of my films not releasing to their full potential. 

I enjoy the love I receive from my fans and my audience. But I think I know what is real for me and what is not. ---- The Best One.

I'm not sure but I can evaluate, some very fine day he will be able to receive the best Award of Glamor industry, “The Academy Award”. May god bless you'll receive that for the Industry of Bolly-wood.

My heartiest Birthday wishes to Mr. Perfectionist of Bollywood "AAMIR KHAN". 

Regards

Dhitendra

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56th Blog - From Random Reading - Where We are Runing

From an Unknown Page during Random Reading, I thought to share with you all.

A Worth and Nice to Read and understand :-)

I was jogging one day and i noticed a person in front of me, about 1/4 of mile. I could tell he was running a little slower than me and I thought, good, i shall try to catch him. I had about a mile to go my path before i needed to turn off. So i started running faster and faster. Every block, i was gaining on him just a little bit. After just a few minutes i was only about 100 yards behind him, so i really picked up the pace and push myself. You would have thought i was running in the last leg of London Olympic competition. I was determined to catch him. Finally, i did it! I caught and passed him by. On the inside i felt so good. "I beat him" of course, he didn't even know we were racing. After i passed him, i realized i had been so focused on competing against him that i had missed my turn. I had gone nearly six blocks past it. I had to turn around and go all back. Isn't that what happens in life when we focus on competing with co-workers, neighbors, friends, family, trying to outdo them or trying to prove that we are more successful or more important? We spend our time and energy running after them and we miss out on our own paths to our God given destinies. The problem with unhealthy competition is that its a never ending cycle. There will always be somebody ahead of you, someone with better job, nicer car, more money in the bank, more education, a prettier wife, a more handsome husband, better behaved children, etc. But realize that "You can be the best that you can be, you are not competing with no one." Some people are insecure because they pay too much attention 2 what others are doing, where others are going, wearing & driving.

Take what God has given you, the height, weight & personality. Dress well & wear it proudly! You'll be blessed by it.

Stay focused and live a healthy life, There's no competition in DESTINY, run your own RACE and wish others WELL!

Regards

Dhitendra

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55th Blog Path of Life <----> Easy Path

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"Make Your Choice to Live In your Own way , What people think about your way not matters, beside what you think about your own way, matters more, Be'coz at some stage of your life, you need to give an answer to yourself and not to the World".

Sometimes all you have is a Choice. You sleep on it, you reason it, and you try to explain it. In the end you make it. Because there’s going to come a point where you have to give up your whole life for one thing, or give up that one thing for a whole another life. And it looks like in making a choice you don’t have one. It is not less painful. It tears you apart. And you helplessly watch your life pass by just because at some point you have given up the wrong thing. There always comes a time in life, where you are in the regime of perplexity to make difference out of many CHOICES, there comes a phase in life when you're in a period of time to make a single choice to make the life more meaningful and rewarding so that you can look towards life with a different perspective and you can make your contrary existence in between the masses. Because everything in your life is a reflection of choices, you have made in our life. Often many people say, first to make thoughts and then to choices, but every-single day millions of thought comes in mind and you can't make choice over any single of them, because it makes us illume, besides you can thought million times over a good CHOICE.

"CHOICE IS ALWAYS YOURS"

Regards

Dhitendra

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54th Blog - Living in a World - "FUNNY"

वो एक लम्हा बचपन का है याद आज भी,

जब जीने की हर अदा में एक अजीब कशिश थी,

हर रोज देखा करते थे उस आसमान को,

और उस आसमां से भी आगे जाने की ख्वाहिश थी,

 

Sometimes everything seems so messed up that even pretending it is fine does not do the trick anymore. But then out of nothing for a split second everything seems to make perfect sense. The only problem is, “it is only for a split of second.” And then again darkness and denial, pretending that you are fine, fooling the world and yourself.

It is funny how the world believes what you make it believe.
It is surprising that friends can be fooled that easily.
And it is painful when – even though you don’t want anyone to realize you are not alright – nobody actually senses a thing.

Someone once said there are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn. That someone was a wise person. What he (or she) did not mention is that this is a pretty much painful experience. You fight to hold on when all you have to do it to let it go. Either ways it would hurt like hell.

Once again, the world is a very funny place. People are funny here. Thoughts are funny. You can’t help but smile when you think about all those promises that went in vain, all those assurances that you are not alone. Are you not? Seriously? You still smile when you think about those vows made and oaths taken. You know that you smile, don’t you? That hurting bitter smile filled with regrets, disappointments and pain.

We, humans, are really funny. I mean it. Have you ever counted how many of us say how the best things in life are worth waiting for, fighting for, believing in and just never letting go of.

Do you hold on to what you love?
Do you fight for what you think is right?
Do you?

I don’t.
In fact I can’t.
And maybe I don’t want to.
And adding more to that… maybe I even should not.

Because… you know, things change. And no matter how much you wish they could be, they will never be the same. It’s funny that we don’t see it that way. And it’s funny that when we finally see it, nobody else does. And even more funny is that when we see it, when everyone else sees it, when the whole world sees it, it does not matter anymore. You are already bruised, ruined and broken. Nothing can change the fact that everything is messed up more than you can handle.

You might as well again pretend like you are okay. And the world might again as well believe that you are. Funny, huh? But you can’t change the fact that you are not. And you can’t change the fact that it does matter if the world could see that you are not fine, not okay, not happy.

But you will go to sleep as you always do, late in the night. And you will wake up the next morning, putting on the mask. And the world will see the smile and believe you are fine. Can’t see through, can it?

But you know… sometimes everything really "IS" so messed up that even pretending it is fine does not do the trick anymore. And then out of nothing for a split second everything seems to make perfect sense. The only problem is, "it is only for a split of second."

Regards

Dhitendra

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53rd Blog - From Bob Marley

“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colors seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”  

                                                                                      -Bob Marley

Regards

Dhitedra

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