A Short Story - "LIFE IS"

Feeling uncomfortable, Standing in the hub of stage & unable to find out the words from where I have to make a Start. Looking around the huge crowd first time, I have to share my life with them all. One of My beloved said me once; whenever you feel Uncomfortable, take a deep breath, let close your eyes, from the inner heart feel the presence of God around you, faith stronger in him you will see that the path is clear and he will give you all of his power to make your wishes & his Promises fulfill. And I found this works all the time, so I did it again…. & now I am again ready with all of Courage, the people watching consciously to hear something and I starts here with a Poem “LIFE IS” of great Mother Teresa which inspired me during my one first & the last Odd day-:

Life is an opportunity;                                      benefit from it.

Life is a beauty;                                                  admire it.

Life is a dream;                                                   realize it.

Life is a challenge;                                             meet it.

Life is a duty;                                                       complete it.

Life is a game;                                                     play it.

Life is a promise;                                                fulfill it.

Life is sorrow;                                                     overcome it.

Life is a song;                                                     sing it.

Life is a struggle;                                               accept it.

Life is a tragedy;                                                confront it.

Life is an adventure;                                         to dare it.

Life is luck;                                                          make it.

Life is life;                                                             fight for it!

The greatness of any living being acknowledged only when we gave preferences to Our Deeds (Karma) over out Birth, Which also called as a “Symbol of Moral Duties”. Between birth & death, there is a Life of Action, the one whose actions is good his life is worthwhile.

The last line of this beautiful poem applied for all of living being, it’s your life & you have two choices to do, fight with this either give yourself to this and I choose to fight with.

There may be days when you get up in the morning and things are not the way you had hoped they would be, that’s when you have to tell yourself that things will get better, there are times when people disappoint you and let you down, but those are the times when you must remind yourself to trust your own judgments and opinions to keep your life focused on believing “Yourself”. 

There will be challenges to face and changes to make in your life and it is up to you to accept them, constantly keep yourself headed in the right direction for you, it may not be easy at times but in those times of struggle you will find a stronger sense of “WHO YOU ARE”, so when the days are filled with frustration and unexpected responsibilities, remember to believe in yourself and all you want your life to be. Because the challenges and changes will only help you to find the goals that you know are meant to come true for you. Keep Believing in “Yourself”.

For being a Successful person in your life you have to keep your eyes open & your mind active all the times, it’s to be Skilled enough, confident enough, creative, disciplined, commitment, passion, sacrifices to seize the opportunities that present themselves. We all person are always able to find a way to take advantage of a situation & not be burdened by it, make a note for that we personally don’t have to lazy, also we never wait for opportunities to come to us, we have only gone after the opportunities.

A lump of Coal, for Example becomes a diamond under intense prolonged Heat & pressure, in the same way, you should become a person of great Strength by preserving in the crucible of intense Difficulty until you finally succeed…… and mind the thing “No One Starts Out As a Diamond”  

A well said line by Joe Paterno --:

           “Make a sense that Success without honor is an unseasoned dish; it will satisfy your hunger but it won’t taste good, do the little things right and the big things will take care of themselves.”

                The great difference between high Achievement and failure in life is contained in your willingness to launch in the direction of your goal, even when your information in incomplete, But better try for complete information

                Mind the last line again “Even when your information is incomplete”.

                A thousand of dreams die unborn everyday because the dreamer lacks the courage to take the first step, on faith with no guarantee of success, But try to think about that there is no guarantee in life even life in quite not sure, and the fact we all have to know is “If every question must answered first”, “If every obstacle must first be overcome” ---- then nothing excellent things will ever get done.

                Decide what you want, write it down, make a plan and then ---- take an action.

                I will share one of my most favorite quotes with you peoples.

              “I learned that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome while trying to succeed”.

This is not an ordinary achievement, there is a lot of people behind this, I am here due to the sacrifice of my loved ones, believe in me by my dear ones, by the peoples who chooses the toughest path of their time & give me space to think about everything, this is a long story & the only unopened page of my life which I reserved to open on this special Occasion.

I never regret for anything in my life, even if my past was full of hurt, shocked, laughter and many more, I still just look back and smile because It made me who I am today.

Keep smiling always    :-)

Regards 
Dhitendra 

Why to Wait and What to Watch..!!

Wait and Watch for Something....but Why..??

          Why every individual human being is only waiting and watching for something to happen, why he or she never try to make something creative, why the people doesn't have had courage to make the changes & why other peoples doesn't have capability to accept those changes, this is one of the most beautiful characteristics of human nature and obviously an ability to wait for something. We are always waiting for something or other. we are always watching something for a change, Waiting, however, is not to be seen as a distasteful activity; you must know how to wait. There are different ways of waiting and different reasons for waiting. When we do not know how to live in the present and are always waiting, it is a reflection of our lazy nature, it's a reflection of laziness in our body, of our soul, The lazier you are, the more unconscious of yourself you are, the more stressful you feel to yourself, the more you live on the surface, in the outward appearance and with your surface nature, and you tend to simply wait.

          This is an Inertia or in a simple word this is a type of an Inactivity (In activeness). In this inertia we always wait for something to change hoping that somebody will come and give us what we actually desire, but we can't ever think to do so. Human nature is like that. If you in deeply observe yourself, you will able to see that there is always an opportunity stands just outside,  you will see that life is always knocking on your door, every day, every minute. It is telling you to change, it is telling you to accept that change. But you have no courage to change; you are waiting for change to happen but you never be try to make any change, so that people can follow you. You just won’t be the change you want. We all want peace, harmony and happiness. But how many actually work towards achieving these?Nature is often at the receiving end – human activity gives rise to exploitation of resources and pollution, for instance.

         

          Nature, god always wants you to make some change, but always you don’t. You are waiting (for what?) and when things get out of hand, disasters might take place. Call them natural or human made; the fact is that the environment has its threshold and one day, we are faced with a challenging situation. Sometimes it takes us by complete surprise; it comes as a shock. Disaster happen and we are not entirely prepared to face the results. However, sometimes we learn from these disasters and even take steps to bring about change – in ourselves and the environment.

          The day you understand that you have to cooperate, collaborate, exercise patience and feel connected, that day becomes the beginning of a new way of life, that day is a new birth day of your life. If you do not have patience and do not co-operate but cry and complain, nothing much will happen except that you will allow nature to use a bigger and more powerful hammer to knock you awake. Waiting is good but only if you know how to wait, when to wait and is there any sufficient reason to wait. One of the great thoughts said that - "when you know how to wait you put time by your side; time comes with you".

          Learn how to wait with patience and in silence. Generally, when we wait we do so full of nervous energy and tension, we are out of balance. When we are waiting we have no patience in that waiting. There is a vast difference between waiting for change and waiting with patience, the difference is that in the latter you have done what is expected of you. You have done your duty. Then one can wait with patience and put time by one’s side. That can give you better and faster possibilities in life. That way time becomes your partner and helps you to reach the desired result.

It is always better to to play, without expecting to win or to lose, but always play to "WIN" not to "LOSE", it is always better to aim for something, without expecting for excellence and success, but always aim for "EXCELLENCE" and keep head high for the "SUCCESS".

Regards

Dhitendra Singh

:-) Keep Smiling - It's best medicine.

Love - Lose ----- It's only a "Journey"

TO LOVE AND TO LOSE - Its only a "Journey"

June - 2012   -     Published on Facebook

       Most of us suffer in life due to various reasons, love, attachment & lose, are one of those silly things. many times we have confusion between love, attachment and love, but a very few people are able to understand the fact that love is a positive quality of giving someone positive emotions without any expectation and demand, always remember one thing that "Love never fails"

     To love and to lose is one of the biggest tragedies in life, yet one fails to see the blessing in the loss. We lose for many reasons – a death, a divorce, a broken friendship and the end of a relationship. In that moment, we feel our life has come to an end. How are we to go on? A piece of your soul is taken leaving an empty hole in your heart.

    The question of “why me” repeats every moment in your mind but as the beauty of time progresses, we see the answer. Loss makes us stronger and wiser. A loss helps us to appreciate even the smallest, insignificant things in life. Our hearts become softer and full of even more love than we had to begin with. A loss helps us to see that we can’t do it alone, that we need faith and hope to get us through. We learn the mercy and grace of God.

    When the grieving and the healing have taken their course, we are renewed, ready to begin a new chapter in our lives with a whole new outlook and attitude. Only then are we able to appreciate the lesson learned through that loss. One never forgets those we lost, but we do learn to let go.

     This life is your's, and it is all up to you what you make it, what you achieve in this,, no matter what, sometimes you are messed up with the crucial nature of nature, it's universal truth, people messed up with in themselves, without knowing the reason for why and what. but the good part for all this is you have to decide how you're going to mess the situation. Just because you fail once, doesn't means you're going to fail each and everything, no, not at all. Keep trying again, hold the situation and always, always believe in yourself, because if you are not able to believe in you then who else it is, so keep your head high, keep ambitions high, move always on path without any fear to lose and the most importantly "Keep always smiling". because life is a beautiful thing and there is so much to smile about that.

    We learn to keep living even though we don’t want to. We learn to treasure each moment and each person. In turn, losses make our lives a lot richer.

    To love and lose is a tragedy, but it’s not the end of our lives. It’s just only a part of our journey.

Always Keep Smiling. :-)

Regards
Dihtendra Singh

Acceptance - What In fact is....??

Acceptance

When we go through tough times in our lives... sometimes, we wish we could forget how to feel for a moment... so we won't get hurt, so we won't cry, so we won't feel empty, so we won't be sad, yet we won't be happy, we won't be glad, we won't be joyful, we wouldn't smile if we do not feel at all.

Our senses tell us that there are always two things we have to understand as we live.

The "Yes" and the "No".

Every encounter we have, every experience has required you a "Yes" and a "No" before you have gone through it.

A matter of knowing what to say "yes" to and which to say "no" to.

Life is a conflict of one and another. Only two sides exist.

The "Yes" and the "No".

Of all of which, we get to learn.

We fail, fail again, and fail better.

We succeed, succeed again, and succeed better.

Life is a medley song, continuous, could be a sad love song, a happy headbanging body shaking beat or a solemn lullaby... Your "Yes" and "No" would not stop the song, but would determine the length of time you linger to each song part that you have. Your decision decides how long the sad love song plays in the air for you, whether you will transition to a headbanging rock n roll to the beat of a high way drive, or you'll transition it to a groovy beat of trance that will make you take a break for some time... or transition to a happy thankful song for having gone through that part of your medley. And in as much, please do not stop your medley. Just let it be. Do not stop it. For there are also others that want to hear yours and be happy to play their own in relation to your melody.

For every "Yes" and "No", there comes acceptance and appreciation. We have to feel both, say "yes" to feel both. It's a great feeling.

When you accept things while you did your best to keep them the best way you want them to. Being objective in the sense that you go for the common good. No selfishness. No lies. Open arms and open heart, an accepting mind for thoughts for the benefit of most.

Learning to appreciate and doing it. Appreciation of things that may come as you think of possibilities or possible outcomes of what you'd say a "yes" and a "no" to. Appreciation of things you have accepted. Appreciation of the learning you gained. Appreciation of your life and how it relates with others.

Remember that we live not to be happy, but to be worthy of happiness.

If you think that you live to be happy, selfishness may come over you, greed over everything that you think may make you happy. It's a "No" for that. But a "Yes" to being worthy of happiness.

How do you know that you are worthy of happiness?

It's how you keep what you have, make it grow without taking from another. Living a fair life in the sense that you won't walk on another's shadow. To each his own. It's yours when it's yours. No greed. No lies.

Suffering is just in the mind.

Pain is a feeling we can get by and overcome with decisions that will make things better for us.

Know that nothing is perfect but there is always something better. But when you put in mind that you already have the best, you won't have to look for something else.

It's always a "YES" and a "NO".

:)

Regards

Dhitendra Singh :-)

Everyone dies… someday and somehow

"A short story perfectly from the heart and was in my heart, a long time ago, this time its in words"    - Dhitendra Singh

"Everyone dies… someday and somehow"

“Lord make me a rainbow, I will shine down on my mother, 
She will know I am safe with you when she stands under my colors"

                                                                  – If I die Young – Band Perry

             It is cold, it is winter, it is Lavasa, it is Pune, and if it is a clear night it is hard to imagine a more romantic spot than this place, in fact it is hard to picture this place as anything but a romantic spot, as you take your partners hand, you can feel the cold tingle of crisp’s winter air, listen to the music a take in the incomparable as you glide around the rink. A romantic group over hot chocolate forms the perfect addition for the evening.
 

        Sitting on stone near seashore with her silently, i recall a special part of my life that part comes unexpectedly and lasted only for a while. 

        “Divya”, I said turning my head and looking over him.
 

         She is still looking up at the sky, the stars.

         “Yes”? She answered with same smile what I want to look always over her face.

         I want to think a thousand times before asking this stupid question, but what stupidity is called when it is not an actual stupidity.

          “If you don’t mind shall I ask you a question?” I nervously asked.

          “Yes” She replied, just after I said, with a deep exhale of breath.

      Oftentimes letting go has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength. We let go and walk away not because we want the universe to realize our worth, but because we finally realize our own worth, there are the things we don’t want to happen, but have to accept, things you don’t want to know, but have to learn, and people you can’t live without but have to let go. Some circumstance and people come into our life just to strengthen us, so we can move on without them. So I come in front of her, shaking my head, putting my hand on her shoulders and try to make myself so strength able to spoke out those lines.

           “Are you feeling scared?” I asked.

            As soon as those words left away my lips, she looks over at me again and Surprised.

           “What...?” She Screamed.

        “Are you feeling scared about what is going to be soon happen to you” I asked in a frustration because I don’t want to feel this right moment, because I don’t want to repeat that bloody question.

           "Sometimes some questions are very complicated while the answers for those questions are quite simple"

           

           “Scaring by what and why” She asked in a very soft and cooled voice.

           By the time I already controlled my anger and felt my guilt about that unusual irritation.

           “By dying at such an early age and –  I questioned”, tightening my jaw and holding my breath. I am feeling very uncomfortable by the exact question what I actually want to ask.

         This time the fear looks in her eye, she looked terrified at this point towards me and answered – “Everyone fears of death, no one wants to die, even when is in such an early age but everyone dies … someday and somehow”, did you know the most amazing moment of my life was, when i met with you, when i fall in love with you, the love & time i shared with you have all been, so without any regret i can say the exact answer for your question is “YES” I am afraid from coming guest”.

            She admitted the answer which was just opposite of my expectation, In spite of our immortal love, i am painfully and perfectly aware about the truth.

            “Oh” I breathed, looking down into her eyes, taking her hands in my palms, “I expected for some other answer”.

            By the end of the last line, I stand from my place, starring continue in her eyes, she is still seated at her place, tears rolling down over her pinkish cheeks, which makes me uncomfortable, I put my hand on her shoulder, she stands up and looks in my eye straightforwardly-:

             “Do you want to know why my answer was so unexpected” She asked.

             “Shall I” I answered.

             “Don’t be lying please, it will be my last answer or question for today” she said.

          Okay, “tell me” I murmured biting my lip, pushing her close to my chest as much as possible. “Tell Me Why”.

              “Because I Love You and You won’t be there” She answered.

             "Love is not just about finding the right person, but creating right relationships, it’s not about how much love you have in the beginning, but how much love you built till the end, besides it is very hard to forget someone who gave you so much to remember."

                                             

its on FB as Well - 


http://simplydhitendra.blogspot.in/2012/09/a-short-story-perfectly-from-heart-and.html?spref=fb

What a YOUTH can "DO" - Youth, Freedom & Corruption

Youth, Freedom & Corruption

              The Duty of youth is to Challenge the Corruption. – Kurt Cobain

     From ancient times our Nation is noticeable by whole world, and its always a matter of pride for us, From being noticeable, as a country of snake charmers to becoming a hub of IT, Mobile communications, a huge foreign investors and rediscovered holiness, the image of India has had a makeover in recent years. Only the willpower of youth, knowledge, take charge attitude, self commitment and studies can help resolve the problems we face today, this power used by many great persons to help India secure independence. While India has been chance to have an entire generation that dedicated itself to the cause of freedom, there is another that has driven the country into the chaos of corruption and crime. We need people of character and honesty to check corruption.

    Corruption begins where a sense of belonging ends, where the dignity of human being ends, when people ready to follow any path & go to any level for completion of his/her work . Corruption starts with us, people around us, we never blame any individual for this blush going. Corruption is present at many levels of society; the first level is in the minds of the general public. For example we tell and ask God that if you do this work of mine then I will offer something to you. Let alone our bosses, we don’t even spare God. Secondly, there are bribe givers and takers at the official level, why i mentioned official level while they are present in any individual sector & at any individual level. The third level of corruption is at the ministerial level. The Lokpal Bill of Mr. Anna Hazare and his team (as read by me) seeks to address this problem. Lack of faith, belongingness, human values, sacrifice and service attitude are all causes of corruption, as also selfish motives and a sense of insecurity are also in same category which are responsible for growth of Corruption.

            

    It is when you feel so insecure and think that money is the only power or strength, then you become corrupt to the core. There is a lack of role models and inspiring examples at the highest levels. Also lack of strict laws and effective enforcement of existing laws produce corruption at all levels. Corruption starts where belonging ends. Nobody will ever ask for a bribe from his family and dear ones. The means through which we can spread belonging is religion. Work hard, be self-sufficient and stand on your own feet.

    We have to instill the belief that whatever is yours, you will get Inner strength and awareness needs to be awakened. Only then, constructive change is possible. The younger generation has to resolve to save the country and its people from corruption and crime. They have to take responsibility on their own and strive for sustainable development and realize that they have a huge potential and strength to achieve whatever they want. The youth need to believe that it is possible to be creative and productive without losing the humanity that is inherent in us.

    A youth person has capability to sustain and enhances enthusiasm and enthusiasm is what drives us towards achieving our goals. We need to see ourselves as universal people to attain a holistic personality, where there is appreciation for all ways of life and culture. We could learn the right things from everyone – be it teamwork from the Japanese, precision from the Germans, decency from the British and marketing skills from the Americans. And above all, human values from our rich tradition, which we are forgetting somewhere in this very fast moving life.

    With one-sixth of the world’s population, India now needs to take its rightful place on the world stage. We need to become more confident and take more pride in our cultural and traditional roots; to tie together our moral values to fight terrorism and other social evils Inter-faith harmony on the basis of an all-inclusive spiritual movement is needed to prevent young minds from turning to violence. The government must focus more on “gross domestic happiness” rather than “gross domestic product”.

           

    It is a very well saying that Power flows only from the barrel of the gun, corrupt rulers have no soul. There is only arrogance of money and power. So, this is only Youth who can make a change because the Future of any country is in the hands of Young Generation, by their willpower, capability, mind and global approach they can do wonders and bring about a change. I also remember one very beautiful line about indication of YOUTH POWER & BEAUTY OF A WOMAN– The two most powerful things in the world is “Beauty of Woman and The Power of Youth” and its a reality. :-)

    Life teaches us in every step.

    The moment u starts trusting someone blindly.
    That person breaks u..!

    When you expect your silence to be understood
    People take your words wrong..!

    Gestures aren't important even though shown heartily.
    But fake words are appreciated..!

    So, don't make anyone your life.

    Don’t be affected by anyone's absence or presence.

    Because when u faces darkness it's you all alone who faces it..!

    Trust yourself

    Value yourself!! •

    The Fight for Justice against corruption is never easy, it never has been and never will be, it exacts a toll on our self, our families, our friends and specially our children, But in the end, I believe as in my case, the price we pay is well worth holding on to our dignity. 

********Frank Serpico

Means of Freedom....!!

           Mention the word, desire by every people "freedom", and every person on earth would wholeheartedly agree that freedom is not an Object but its truly a necessity. What most of us mean by this is freedom from something or freedom to do something....? Children are always looking for opportunities to get free of rules laid down by their parents. Adults want more freedom in their relationships, wants to make balance their professional life without compromising with any kind of slavishness, while older people want freedom from disease, insecurities and loneliness.

            True freedom, however, is none of these things. True freedom means the power to be really you. Every one of us is unique, with our own basic personality, wants, choices, desires, likes and dislikes. The sum total of all these makes us what we are. However, few of us are lucky enough to be in control of internal and external circumstances to be able to express our true selves. So we could end up being what we’re not. Family and society, friends and colleagues create circumstances – though perhaps with good intentions -- that condition us, often forcing us to do or become what we are not. Habitually, it suits many of us too, to be what others want us to be, rather than to be ourselves.

            A child who is well mannered and well behaved gets appreciated and rewarded, while one, who is rebellious, gets scolded and punished. In order to gain approval from others and to get rewarded, children automatically start playing roles which are different from their true selves. In this way, right from childhood, we lose our freedom to be ourselves, and become what others want us to be.

            This situation could create plenty of conflicts and disorder in us. When there is a mismatch between what we truly want to do or say, and what we are forced to do, it results in stress. And stress, as is scientifically proven, acts on our body and mind, producing a lot of psychosomatic diseases. As an adult, when we suffer from chronic problems like headache, backache, acidity, hypertension, fatigue or diabetes, we seek medical attention, often not knowing that the root cause of these problems is our lack of freedom to be ourselves and to express ourselves freely. Medical science often treats the symptoms or the end results, without going into the metaphysical aspects of the disease. As a result, most treatments are life long, and although many of the diseases are controlled or cured at the symptom level, the cause which gave rise to these problems persists.

            So let’s give ourselves absolute or total freedom, to think, to speak and to do what we really want to. This does not mean becoming selfish or license to cause injury to others. On the contrary, a person who values his freedom will immediately realize the value of other's freedom. Absolute freedom means freedom for all. It means giving up controlling ourselves and controlling others. Once we have given ourselves total freedom, we need to think what we really want, how to go about it, and at what cost we want it. And having given the whole thing a lot of thought with our free mind, we can choose the correct action. When we think with a mind that is not free, when we are worried about what others will think or say about us, when we are always playing to the gallery, we might give some happiness to others, but we will find ourselves under duress, and so will never know peace and joy.

"The secret of happiness is freedom, the secret of freedom is courage."

Education - What its purpose

Education - What its purpose

"As per my mind thinking The true purpose of education is to make minds and not only careers. Because the true perfection of human being lies not in what he/she has, but in what he/she really is."

What could be the purpose of education or what should be the aim of gaining knowledge? I think the purpose behind education should be to make one's mind strong and capable enough that he should be able to understand the different point of views behind a particular situation. The more one gains knowledge, the more he becomes capable of analyzing circumstances. And after analyzing he should be able to keep himself intact from that situation and then should give his/her views. He should be a believer in equanimity, love and non-violence, he should learn to be free, His morals and values should always be high.

But do you think today's education system is teaching us these values? Precisely my answer is a big "NO". Today's education system is mere a "Lakeer Ka Fakeer". There is no creativity, it lefts no chances for humans own imagination or curiosity. It's like a burden, which every Human has to bear, till his/her education lasts. If you are good in studies then teachers give you importance. The whole aim seems around impressing others, as if you are living your life for them. As if you owe them something, as if you are in their debt. And as a result today's youth is under great pressure, and under this pressure only they get addicted to some habits, which should not be a part of their routine. Like- smoking, drugs, early sex life,  etc. because, they find it cool.

We can simply take the dictionary meaning of Knowledge and Information. The meaning of the word knowledge is: facts, information, and skills acquired by a person through experience or education; the theoretical or practical understanding of a subject And the meaning of Information is: facts provided or learned about something or someone Where information is learned, knowledge is acquired by a person through experience.

Do you think today’s education system is making children knowledgeable? Or they are just gaining information?

When a child comes into this world, he is raw and fresh like a bud. Empty and free from any boundaries, but gradually we all put garbage into her/his mind and want her to be like a puppet, which should follow the society blindly. And if someone has a different mindset, if he talks about things with a different perspective, we start criticizing him because we feel insecure that who is he/she to change the system.

In India we all know how much illiteracy is there, so in this country being a literate itself should be considered good. But no, it's a race, when you are literate then things don't stop there only, then you have to be a topper, you should score at least 90-95% in your exams, then only you will be considered intelligent. But, can anyone answer if every child start getting these types of marks will our universities be able to give admission to all of them? And is it possible that all the fingers are equal? We all together make the society, if someone is good in studies, the other can be good in sports or arts or any other kind of creativity. Then why is this race, why we are always running for a competition, Why didn't we try to live a life and not to make life just an existence.

In this long running life , we shape our lives and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our responsibility.    —  Eleanor Roosevelt

Anyway these are only my views, so don't take it in besides, even every human being in this world is be free to think and act accordingly.